Tag: self-care

50 Ways to Take a Break


Everyone needs a break, I know I need many throughout the day, and this graphic is so great! Here are a few of my favourites pictured:

  1. Colour with crayons
  2. Read or watch something funny. (Thank God for Big Bang Theory)
  3. Take a bath
  4. Light a candle (or many candles, just don’t leave them unattended)
  5. Call a friend. -thank you Rebecca, Alan, Adrienne and Hilary
  6. Find a relaxing scent. For me it’s lavender.
  7. Give thanks. When I’m really anxious, I sit down and write down what I’m grateful for. It seems to help calm the anxiety.
  8. Sing (ok- I added this one-but it does make me happy)

What are a few of your favourites? What would you add?

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Disappointing Doctor’s Visit

disappointing doctor's


I think we’ve all been there. Even those without a chronic illness. We’ve all had at least one-(I’ve had many) A disappointing doctor’s visit. I’m always a bundle of nerves when it comes to going to the doctor. You’d think that with all the experience I’ve had with them I’d be cool as a cucumber. But starting the day before I see one I am already fretting. I always prepare.  I write down a list of concerns and questions. Write down points about how I’ve been feeling because if I went in empty handed I’d completely forget what I wanted to say.

I had an appointment scheduled for this week to talk about pain management. My pain is not managed well. Everyday is different, some days the medications we have in place work and some days they don’t. I never know what day I’m going to face when I wake up in the morning, if I’ve even slept at all the night before. I wanted to talk to my doctor about this, and the fact that I think the current med I’m on might be causing this increase in anxiety I’ve noticed.

In the waiting room, I was as patient as I could be.  My doctor always runs behind but I tell myself that its because she actually spends time with her patients. (usually she does). Finally it was my turn, I walked in, sat down, took a deep breath, got out my notes, I was ready. She comes in and asks what she can do for me and as I begin she puts her hand up to stop me and says “we’re not changing or increasing your medications”.

My breath catches in my throat and I don’t know what to say. That was the whole reason why I was there. I try to explain my increase in anxiety, she replies that its not the meds. And just like that she moves on to talk about my bad cholesterol and then the appointment is over.  I waited two months for this appointment. And just like that it was over.

I kicked myself for not standing my ground more firmly, but I find, since Fentanyl has caused this “Opioid Crisis” discussing or altering my opiate medications seems off the table. (that’s another blog post altogether)

So I’m left with another disappointing doctor’s appointment and have to cope the best way I can on my own.

What about you? Tell me about a disappointing doctor’s appointment you’ve had, or maybe you’ve had a really great one you’d like to share?

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Motivation? What’s That?


Motivation? What’s that? I haven’t been writing for some time, I just haven’t felt inspired. Not inspired to write, not really inspired to do anything. I know what you’re thinking, what happened to all that motivation and zest from the beginning of the year? And the truth is I have no idea. I guess it happens to the best of us. We find ourselves suddenly stagnant, no longer moving forward. We set goals and they seem so far away we worry we’ll never reach them so we just stop moving toward them. The plus side is I don’t think I’ve moved backward.

At the beginning of the year I talked about a revolution. And I still want one. All it takes is making the choice to take that small step forward. The choice to do things a little differently. It’s never too late to start up again. And this post for me is that first step.

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Bell Let’s Talk Day -January 25th 2017

Bell Let's Talk Day


Tomorrow is January 25th 2017 and all around Canada people will be participating in different mental health initiatives to raise awareness and end the stigma of mental illness. It’s called Bell Let’s Talk day. So let’s talk…

If you’re new to the blog, you might not know that I suffer from a few mental illnesses. I have depression, generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder, Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and a dissociative disorder. It doesn’t matter or shouldn’t matter how I got here. Or how I ended up with these diagnosis. What matters is where do I go from here?

What do I do? I feel like I’m doing everything I can. I’m attending weekly therapy sessions, I see my psychiatrist monthly to monitor medications- though at the moment I’m looking for a new psychiatrist. I hope to start attending weekly support groups for depression and anxiety. These sessions are offered free in our community, I just need to find the courage to show up. A lot easier said then done.

Unfortunately, there are no support groups in our community for people who suffer from PTSD, the closest outpatient one is in Mississauga and it’s far from free. I wish there was something closer as I could really use the support, but I think that’s what Bell Let’s Talk Day is also about -raising money to use towards mental health initiatives. For every call and text, for bell customers Bell is donating 5 cents. For every hashtag #BellLetstalk used on social media Bell is also donating 5 cents towards mental health initiatives. So be sure to hashtag and text your heart out.

So, getting back to me. If you want to show your support, you can by just being here for me. You could engage me on Facebook, I use Facebook quite a bit to stay in touch with friends as it feels safe. You could read my blog, my biggest outlet for thoughts and emotions. Leave a comment, ask me questions, show interest. All of these things help me feel less alone and less isolated. Sometimes going out is a challenge for me but having you over for a tea visit (if we’re friends) is also an option. Your prayers and love from afar are also much appreciated. Write me a card or letter, or just send me good thoughts. All of these things are helpful and remind me that I’m important to you.

How will you be supporting Bell Let’s Talk Day?

If you yourself are in distress and are in need of assistance please don’t hesitate to call HERE 24/7. They are an amazing crisis line with access to many services. 1-844-HERE-247 (437-3247)


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