Blog 2017-08-24T23:09:10+00:00

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Medistik – Product Review & Giveaway

By | April 24th, 2017|Categories: Reviews|Tags: , |

My journey with Medistik began 2 years ago when a Nurse Practitioner recommended it me. She had discovered it at her chiropractor's office after a back injury. She said it made such a difference in her recovery. I had never heard of it before, but was desperate for pain relief. I'd been using other topical products with no success so I thought I would give it a try and I've never used anything else since. Medistik is a pain reliever made in Canada. Its a topical treatment that soothes aching muscles and joints and helps reduce my pain. I put it on every day before I bed and now I don't think I could sleep without it. You don't need to put on much to feel its effects. From the Pamphlet: How Does Medistik Work? Alleviates Pain and Inflammation:  When you are injured enzymes in your body create chemicals that cause [...]

In Sickness and in Health- Marriage and Chronic Illness

By | April 10th, 2017|Categories: Chronic Pain|Tags: , |

No one signs up for chronic pain, (at least I wouldn't think anyone would). Nevertheless chronic pain showed up in my life nearly 14 years ago. It showed up and has impacted every area of my life including my marriage. At the altar on the day of the wedding most couples repeat the vows "in sickness and in health". A promise to be there for each other no matter the circumstances, but how many couples actually can live up to those standards? Illness can permeate a marriage changing the roles of the couple. From equal partners to one who is the caregiver and one who is sick. When suffering, pain, doctors appointments and medications become the focus, relationships can easily unravel. Guilt, and resentment can take over. My husband and I have been married for 19 years and here is what we have learned together along the way: Accept that sometimes and [...]

Dear Jen- Perseverance- Pep Talk Needed

By | April 9th, 2017|Categories: Chronic Pain|Tags: , , |

Dear Jen, I know what you're thinking. Well, of course I do because I'm you. You're thinking that life is too hard, that the pain is too much and that you feel beaten down by this flare. You're running out of steam, out of motivation and out of  - for lack of a better work "zest". We've been here many times before. And we give in to those feelings. We give up, shut down, isolate and hide. But not this time. This time we are going to practice a word called perseverance. Which basically means don't you dare give up. Don't let the lack of progress suck the the life out of you. You wanted a revolution. You wanted your eyes to have that spark again and you and only you can make that happen. You have a big and busy week ahead of you. And you can do it. You [...]

50 Ways to Take a Break

By | March 31st, 2017|Categories: Self-care|Tags: |

Everyone needs a break, I know I need many throughout the day, and this graphic is so great! Here are a few of my favourites pictured: Colour with crayons Read or watch something funny. (Thank God for Big Bang Theory) Take a bath Light a candle (or many candles, just don't leave them unattended) Call a friend. -thank you Rebecca, Alan, Adrienne and Hilary Find a relaxing scent. For me it's lavender. Give thanks. When I'm really anxious, I sit down and write down what I'm grateful for. It seems to help calm the anxiety. Sing (ok- I added this one-but it does make me happy) What are a few of your favourites? What would you add?

Disappointing Doctor’s Visit

By | March 29th, 2017|Categories: Chronic Pain, Self-care|Tags: , |

I think we've all been there. Even those without a chronic illness. We've all had at least one-(I've had many) A disappointing doctor's visit. I'm always a bundle of nerves when it comes to going to the doctor. You'd think that with all the experience I've had with them I'd be cool as a cucumber. But starting the day before I see one I am already fretting. I always prepare.  I write down a list of concerns and questions. Write down points about how I've been feeling because if I went in empty handed I'd completely forget what I wanted to say. I had an appointment scheduled for this week to talk about pain management. My pain is not managed well. Everyday is different, some days the medications we have in place work and some days they don't. I never know what day I'm going to face when I wake [...]

Parenting in Pain

By | March 27th, 2017|Categories: Chronic Pain|Tags: , , |

My son was three when the pain started. I'd always been an actively involved parent. I took pride in my parenting. Sitting on the floor playing games with him, reading stories with him on my lap. Going for walks, taking him to Gymboree classes.  And suddenly that needed to stop. I could barely walk and I was in agony most of the time. I went through a barrage of doctors all trying to figure out what was wrong with me. And in the midst of all the tests I went through and all the doctors I saw, I needed to find a way to still be a good parent to my little guy. I mourned the things I used to be able to do. But it just wasn't my reality anymore. Here are some things I learned along the way:  Don't try to hide it. Children are smart and intuitive, they know [...]

Motivation? What’s That?

By | March 25th, 2017|Categories: Self-care|Tags: , |

Motivation? What's that? I haven't been writing for some time, I just haven't felt inspired. Not inspired to write, not really inspired to do anything. I know what you're thinking, what happened to all that motivation and zest from the beginning of the year? And the truth is I have no idea. I guess it happens to the best of us. We find ourselves suddenly stagnant, no longer moving forward. We set goals and they seem so far away we worry we'll never reach them so we just stop moving toward them. The plus side is I don't think I've moved backward. At the beginning of the year I talked about a revolution. And I still want one. All it takes is making the choice to take that small step forward. The choice to do things a little differently. It's never too late to start up again. And this post [...]

Out and About

By | February 10th, 2017|Categories: Chronic Pain|

Dear Future Jen We're out and about today. Doing one of our favourite things. Meeting a friend for coffee. It takes so much courage to walk out the front door, even when I'm going to see someone I care a lot about.  If there is one thing I'm learning it's that anxiety doesn't make any sense at all. And I can't seem to control it. It's always there, ever persistent, sometimes waiting in the background sometimes front and centre in the spotlight. I have so many fears. I know logically they don't make sense, but that doesn't seem to make any difference. All I can do is keep putting one foot in front of the other. And continue going out and about  trying to tackle one day at a time. Coffee with a friend is a good place to start.

Reaching Out

By | January 27th, 2017|Categories: PTSD|Tags: , , , |

Why is it so hard to reach out and ask for help? Is it something to do with the western culture? Is it supposed to look like we can have a million balls in the air, and that we're managing them all to perfection oh and if you're a woman you also have to look beautiful while doing it. I don't get it. I'm tired of it. I'm not managing well right now folks. Anxiety is sky high. I keep waiting for it to pass but there it is every morning greeting me as I wake. It's still 2017 and I still want a revolution but I've come to realize I can't do it by myself. I need some help. I need your help. This is me reaching out. I need to meet you for coffee or have you come here. I might need you to come to a doctors [...]

Bell Let’s Talk Day -January 25th 2017

By | January 24th, 2017|Categories: Mental Health, PTSD, Self-care|Tags: |

  Tomorrow is January 25th 2017 and all around Canada people will be participating in different mental health initiatives to raise awareness and end the stigma of mental illness. It's called Bell Let's Talk day. So let's talk... If you're new to the blog, you might not know that I suffer from a few mental illnesses. I have depression, generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder, Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and a dissociative disorder. It doesn't matter or shouldn't matter how I got here. Or how I ended up with these diagnosis. What matters is where do I go from here? What do I do? I feel like I'm doing everything I can. I'm attending weekly therapy sessions, I see my psychiatrist monthly to monitor medications- though at the moment I'm looking for a new psychiatrist. I hope to start attending weekly support groups for depression and anxiety. These sessions are [...]